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By young woman, I mean under 35. I am old. I am over 40. I mean officially. Not like, 40 plus a few months. I mean 40 plus a few years. With age comes wisdom, right? Goodbye beauty. Goodbye elastic skin. Good bye anti-gravitational butt. Hello age marks. Hello flappy under arm skin. Hello strange wrinkles above my knee when I flex my thighs.

Anyway, the good news is...WISDOM!!! I have learned a couple of things about myself and I am fully comfortable with admitting them. Rembember when you were really young, like 25, and you pretended you liked to do things you really didn't like to do? Him: "Do you want to do go kayaking this weekend?" Me: "Awesome! I totally don't care that it's March and freezing and the water's 50 degrees and I HATE outdoor activities!!! LET'S GO!!"

Today I am fully actualized. I am comfortable in the woman that I truely am. I don't need to apologize for who I am. I now have two "rules to live by":

1. I do not like outdoor "iron man" activities: Okay, an hour of tennis, just volleying the ball back and forth, that's fine. But, anything that involves "equipment", that's NOT OK. I'm not going to snow shoe. I'm not going to learn to sail. We're NOT hiking. I mile or so down a pretty, autumn leaved strewn path, fine. But, serious slogging up and down hills wearing special foot gear...NO! I am fully confident in admitting that when I have a Saturday free I would rather fill it with reservations, movie tickets, a good novel, and shopping bags.

2. I can pick my own friends, and I'm not going to spend more than 20 minutes with someone I don't like! It sounds cruel, I know. I but when you are heading over the crest of middle age (AHHH!) you really don't have time to waste. If someone is really irritating I am not going to invest time with this person. Polite, courteous, yes. Friends....no. The same goes for bad novels and boring movies.

Judge me if you will. Just wait until you are "MIDDLE AGE". Time becomes an issue. Do with it what you will!